Spousal abuse is a worldwide issue;
it’s when one person tries to dominate their relationship with physical violence.
I remember waking up on one Christmas
morning looking for a pair of cap guns I received as a gift. Looking though the
house I could not find them so I began to look for mom, I heard voices in the
garage so went there opening the door I saw my father hitting my mother with my
toy guns.
Spousal abuse does not discriminate, it happens to all
ages, Relationships, heterosexual, same-sex partners’ ethnic back grounds, economic levels. As women are more commonly abused men are also victims of
abuse.
The abuse did not end with my mother,
it slowly flowed to the kids first the oldest until it arrived to me.
The bottom line is that spousal
abuse /domestic violence is never acceptable in anyone’s
life. It destroys one self-esteem it creates future abuse by the victims them
self.
I remember the day it ended I walked in to the house after football practice,
my father was screaming at my older brother. My brother had been abused physically
and mentally for many years to the point that when my father screamed at him he
would freeze and shake uncontrollably.
Spousal abuse is not the loss of
control of the abuser it’s the choice made on how they will control you.
Dominance
Humiliation
Isolation
Threats
Intimidation
Denial and blame
Looking at my brother I realized,
that this would never happen again. It began with violence and it ended with violence.
After that day some said that I needed to be watched in case I followed my father’s
footsteps.
There are many avenues to take and
look for help starting with the police and help centers. Help centers are
broken down by the following.
For men
For women
For teens
For gay men and women
For immigrants
End the cycle of abuse speak up and
take action.
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